Support can mean different things to different people. Some like to meet with
those undergoing the same experiences, others prefer to reach out to their friends
and families for support, and some people are even more private. Whatever you
prefer, it's important to have an outlet for your fears and anxieties, to understand
that you're not alone and that it's okay to ask for help. Research shows that
people who join support groups, for instance, enjoy a much better quality of
life than those who don't.
Most hospitals and cancer clinics organize support groups or can refer you
to one. Ask about groups in your area, especially if you don't live near a hospital.
Or look in the phone book for resource listings such as the American Cancer
Society.
There are two very good reasons to join a support group. First, it allows participants
to express their needs and worries, share their stories, and talk to people
who know exactly how you're feeling. Second, the group is usually up to date
on the latest treatment news and research. Not only can they answer many of
your questions, it's also a forum where you can learn about practical coping
strategies, such as dealing with the kids when you're exhausted, tips on what
foods are best to eat if you're feeling sick, and ideas on how to discuss your
illness with friends and co-workers.
An alternative resource is the Internet, with its many virtual support and
chat groups. Here, even housebound people can find comfort online. Many who
aren't confined to the home prefer the anonymity and convenience of cyberspace
support groups over a face-to-face encounter. The advantage is that no one has
to know who you really are, and the best part is that Internet support groups
are almost always available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. So if you can't
sleep in the middle of the night, there's a good chance there's someone else
on the computer too. If you feel too ill to leave the house but can get to the
computer keyboard, you can still connect with someone and get the support that
you need. Many strong friendships have formed via the Internet. It has really
made a difference in many lives!